April 20, 2011

Well said Mr. Granderson. Well said.

I recently read an article, "Parents don't dress your girls like tramps," written by LZ Granderson, a CNN Contributor, and I thought what he had to say was fabulous.

You can read the article here.

I think the article really hit home for me as Kenna and Michal get older and move in to what I've dubbed "The Brittney Spears sizes." I don't want them to dress like toddlers but I really don't want them to dress like teenagers either. It's gotten more and more challenging to find age-appropriate -- or at least my definition of age-appropriate -- clothing the older they get.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the article.


  1. I read this article yesterday and couldn't agree more. I'm in the thick of it right now because my daughter is 12. She is developing and the main problem I have right now if find age appropriate clothing, including undergarments. I don't need my 12 year old wearing a padded bra, yet that is pretty much the only thing out there. We make do with sports bras which has worked for us.

    I was able to find her an Easter dress from Target that wasn't revealing. For day to day wear, she wears a lot of jeans/tshirts. If the tshirt is too low cut she puts a tank top on underneath it. There is age appropriate clothing out there. It might take some searching but you can find it.

  2. Victoria10:33 AM

    I completely agree with the article. I have a 10 and 12 year old. My 12 year old enjoys shopping and saving her money for name brand items, like Abercrombie. However, she knows her mom has the Eagle eye over her and won't let her get anything that's not age appropriate. You can still buy hoodies and t-shirts at A&F...she has started to point out how inappropriate a lot of their styles are. Luckily there are stores like Areopostal that have sporty "teen" fashions that are appropriate. I remember leaving the 6x department and moving up...just wait until you leave the kid's 16 department and go into juniors! WOW! Start explaining what's ok when they're young and they won't ask later. Your girls are at the perfect age to start talking! You dress them so cute...why would they want anything but their mother's opinion! Good Luck!

  3. I completely agree with this article. My little girl is just a toddler, but every time we venture out to the mall, I see 5 year olds wearing heeled shoes and midriff baring tops - scares me half to death!

  4. We recently took Kerri (she is 6) to the Children's GAP to buy a pair of jeans. ALL they had were mid-rise jeans. On Kerri the waistband was several inches under her belly button (just over her crotch!), and if she bent over you could see tushy. The clerk said "this is the style and all we have." I walked out without buying a thing and will not go back there.
    Recently, we saw pictures of some girls Kerri's age who are enrolled in cheerleading. The girls are showing way too much, have way too much make up on, and look like mini-hoochies instead of little girls. And the dance moves are way too provocative! I decided Kerri will not be a cheerleader.
    I don't know how long I will be able to protect Kerri from seeing girls who do not dress appropriately. It is in music videos (Katy Perry, Britney, etc), on TV (have you seen some of the new dolls coming out on commercials?!) and in magazines, etc. But for now, she is oblivious to the fashion trend and I hope she will have enough self confidence in the years to come to know she can still be fashionable - without looking like a hoochie!

  5. I agree with every word in that article. The saddest point of the whole thing is that it is the parents buying this stuff. YUCK! I feel fortunate that my almost 6 year old told me she only wanted one-piece bathing suits cause "tummies are private and I don't want to show mine." Can she keep that opinion until she's 30? :) Don't get me wrong... I think bikinis are just fine, but it's HER opinion, and I think I'll go ahead and respect it. :)

  6. I read this article yesterday and I completely agree! I have a 12 year old daughter and I am shocked at what I see some of her friends wear. I will not allow her behind to be showing from too short shorts and there will be NO words across her bottom. She usually has to wear something over or under the clothes most of her friends wear by themselves.
    It is very frustrating to find things appropriate for her for summertime.
    She has always had her own sense of style and I love it... as long as she's covered.

  7. Right there with you Kristi. I was just in the Gap today ohhhing and awwwing over the little girl lines...and shaking my head at what really fits Lia now. Not to mention that she is so much more vocal about what she will and will not wear. It's a balancing act for sure!! Thanks for sharing this!!

  8. I read it and watched his video and I agree. We are not quite at the age yet. Kate still dresses in smocking and long dresses. BUT I know that once she grows out of the toddler sizes my choices will be limited. And I already worry about being able to find those stylish yet modest clothes for her. I cringe when I see "sexualized" girls...CRINGE. It is so wrong. It seems that one can find casual day to days clothes for older girls but it seems the more formal clothes (dresses for occasions) have gotten too mature.

  9. I totally agree! I have an 8 and 7 year old and it is so hard to find things that are cute and age appropriate. The other day I had them try on 5T dresses to see if they could pass as longer shirts with leggings. A couple worked but some were just too tight in the arms. I love seeing other people in the blog world post ideas of places to shop and cute outfits ... always fun to get new ideas and to find cute age appropriate clothes. I just want to go back to the toddler sizes!

  10. Anonymous8:06 PM

    I have been through this with my daughter, luckily it was ten years ago and not as bad, but still at the time I was fighting an uphill battle.

    The good news is you can still find cute things, I found them to be a little more pricey (with some exceptions the cheaper stuff tends to be worse) but I found that if we shopped together, and had discussions about each thing she tried on (instead of making rules) we ended up agreeing on what we did or didnt want to buy. (plus i padded out the wardrobe with basics that I was happy with)

  11. My line in the sand is stuff written on the butt...like that idiotic "Juicy" or "Phat" stuff. Its just crass. Also, skimpy bikinis at summer camp. I was born and raised in Miami, and am shocked by what some moms allow their daughters to wear to summer camp to go down the water slide each week. No cover ups or anything.

    What's scary is that T was 5 last summer. FIVE. She w
    has some bikinis for the beach, and clearly understood and did not like that I was banning them at summer camp. Kids are just growing up too damn fast. Sigh.

  12. Now that I'm starting to buy size 7 tops for Martina, I am also having a harder time. I was in Sears the other day and the size 7-16 section was just too old for her. I decided she was just going to have to wear 6X for now (so we could shop from the 4-6X section) and hopefully they will fit for most if not all of the summer!

    I did find some tasteful T-shirts in size 7/8 at Target today. :)

  13. I do agree. There are not many classic styles out there for girls in those "in between" years. I'm actually thankful for being able to shop on-line which gives me a lot more choices than your average mall. I also like to share my feelings with large companies by e-mail and let them know that there is a large market they are missing out on and I am taking my money elswhere!

  14. Anonymous1:47 PM

    What is interesting is that the column was written by a man! Where are the women writers on this important topic?

  15. Anonymous10:42 AM

    This is a topic that I feel SO strongly about - - Thank you for posting about it. What a well-written article! Best line: "I'm his father, not his friend."

    My daughter's school (private) helps in that they have a strict/modest dress code - - more schools should consider this.

    I always enjoy seeing your girls' beautiful and fun outfits and appreciate when you share your sources!


  16. I was just visiting a school photography site - you should see what they wear to prom! yowza.

  17. Anonymous3:56 PM

    There are lots of places to buy age-appropriate clothing: LL Bean, Lands End, Hanna Anderson, GAP, Nordstrom's.... I think what is happening is that girls want the skimpy sexy stuff that can seem cool when you are eleven or twelve, and that clothing is readily available at trendy places like A & F. I have no problems saying no.

  18. Yes! I love this artcile! It's so sad how instead of being full of life and innocense, our girls are encouraged by the media to be little sex symbols!

    Great article!




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